She is a married women and she is my relative the day when I saw her it was like whooooo! It's likely that neither of you are compatible enough, one of youhas to change. I later ask what the text meant as i was confused and he just replys he was drunk and in the dumps and that we are just great friends. I just want to make her happy for some moments because she is very nice humble and polite and obviously she is beautiful. I'm sure there are plenty of Virgo guys - or even those that have experience with them! However, I have to admit that being on the autism spectrum does affect relationships. But why do they blow hot and cold? When you are crazy about someone, do you really treat them coldly? All I wanted was him to confirm my drive.
She's not being rude but she's just not been acting the same. He is so very loving and tells me I am his godess and that he adores me, and then all in a day or two goes really off. So really ask yourself what kind of relationship you want before you become involved with a man and the chemistry starts to cloud your vision. And Elise, yes, I read your response. We met a weak later and we talked about everything that we did wrong and why he kept leaving me and coming back to me. Men can become distant even in good relationships, and if you know what to do, you can keep your guy physically and emotionally engaged… even when he needs time to recover.
Sometimes they seek whoever is nearby, because they're bored or horny. The number one reason men will blow hot and cold is that the woman herself starts acting too pushy too early on and pushes him away. The worst offenders are the men who use you for ego gratification. Things will be coasting along, and suddenly the guy will change gears, she'll find out he's dating other women, or he doesn't make plans with her every weekend, and she's left wondering what the heck happened. Just try to be honest and open about how you feel, doing that will help clear up much of this. I am facing the problem now and hv no idea what this married woman is up to.
Once you have made it clear to her that you are interested in her and in having a relationship with her, the games should stop. They act like they're still in high school and thrive on the challenge of wooing you until you fall for them. They actually get a thrill watching you suffer over yet continue to endure their inconsistent and rude behavior. If you felt the same way, you would probably walk away and spend time alone, but a woman needs to talk about it. You want to go further, take things further, get a man to open up, and maybe create a future together. She has a problem with her relationship with herself, in short, she either does not know what she wants, or worse, has a deep rooted emotional crisis occurring at the subconscious level.
However, I don't think it is always that simple. Once you recognize this pattern, you've already gained your freedom from the automatic response instigated by your partner's game. Sometimes I might really like a man, but just not in a relationship kind of way, if you get my drift. I just wish she'd spit it out, where are we at. Have your own expectations and limits. The kind of woman that makes him feel like a man — the number one thing he needs to feel. Almost 3 months passed and on a lonely sunday he texted me.
We've hung out either lunches or after she's off work. I decided yesterday I cant be bothered with this head messing idiot that no longer can be bothered coming seeing me, he txts me once or twice a day to ask what im doing, and when he finds out im at home doing nothing thats it for the rest of the day, but when I go out with a mutual male friend of ours, he always txts me. Now imagine your guy did that. It really does seem to be the truth when you look at it initially, but when you get a little understanding of how men work, you realize that your perceptions are not 100% true. I feel like for three months he was pretending to care for me.
Told her we are so alike that when we are together we dont even have to say anything we know what the other is thinking and feeling. Now we have to wait for my parents to return from a long vacation and I am getting more and more anxious. Never was concerned because anyone can be depressed at times for various reasons. I say girl because she's 20, very beautiful blonde, a real head turner. If I was an outsider, I'd probably say or at least think the same things you were.
I might test him by being aloof, sad, or perhaps even angry. Says this depresses him and he cant cope. When he goes all quiet and i question him why. See, for you as a woman, attachment will often feel completely natural. First things first, take an honest look at the relationship and try to figure out the reason for his behavior. It's a way to feel love without getting hurt. You had so much fun together… you tried to be nice and light and casual to show him what a fun gal you are.
It can also mean that I am hung up on someone else and he is just a space filler for me. You pursue him because it sets off your internal fears, which combined with the very real external fears his behaviour , set off the drama meter. A man will blow cold simply because he is done using you for your body. Patience is not usually my forte, but I'm more than willing to try this out. It can be a disappointment but we will get over it — and move on to something more healthy. Though if there was no interest at all, there probably wouldn't be any hard-to-get behavior. Just relax, be a man and love her.