But it seems like my husband is my worse enemy. I've gotten so angry at times that I've become physically violent, hitting other people or breaking things. Then tell him that his abuse of the dogs cannot continue, and his anger outbursts at your daughter also cannot continue. When off meds, it's a nightmare. Yet, he won't do a thing to help. If he hurts your son, with you knowing what you know about his behavior already, you will likely be held responsible as well and could lose custody yourself.
He hates all my,friends and little by little has been bashing my family. They have anger that takes over them. I'm currently going through the same thing I haven't even been married for a year and recently been feeling like i'm being broken down. The job helps pay the bills, but James is embarrassed about being the crew chief in an assembly-line taco stand. The scared little boy will whine and fuss until you make it all better. I know he says that he love me but how? Looking for people to relate to. Women are prone to venting out their emotions in the form of anger fits.
Make up your mind to create a safe, healthy, loving life for yourself and your children, and you can do it. We dated long-distance for a year or so. She built a labyrinth of ways to distance herself, none of which reflected the strengths we had. Focusing our anger on our divorcing spouse can fuel the fire to dangerous levels for everyone involved. We believe that safe homes and safe families are the foundation of a safe society.
You need to pull her aside when he is not around and explain to her that this is in no way her fault. Jodi, I can relate to your situation, I'm on the verge of getting divorced. You and your husband can save your marriage, but he has to be willing to get the help he needs to manage his anger. Living with an angry person will slowly destroy you. When someone hurts or frustrates me, I want to get even.
But if you become a wellspring of appreciation for the work that he does and the living he provides, you will lift some of the pressure from his life. I need advice, some cheery words, something! I really don't want some angry 16-year old who yells and freaks out over simple stuff. Compliment him for the character qualities he exercises or needs to exercise in his job: patience, perseverance, determination, creativity, etc. Did you stay or did you leave? I have been married now for 3 years and 3 months. Take good care of yourself and your children, Janie. At times, I've felt angry enough to kill. She fixes him a nice dinner, draws him a hot bath, cleans up the kitchen while he relaxes, then listens to him complain about work until bedtime.
There are eight and twelve-hour courses available that provide the tools, skills and strategies to change our state of mind, perceive circumstances differently, catch ourselves before our anger explodes, harness our anger in more productive directions and create more inner peace in our lives. The biggest challenge of living with a resentful or angry person is to keep from becoming one yourself—or else, the high contagion and reactivity of resentment and are likely to make you into someone you are not. Kids are still learning how to gauge a full container and pour it with ease. At work, everyone loves him and all of my friends think he is amazing. It is such a lonely and frightening place to be in for so long when no one you know has a clue and my spouse acts like it's not really a big deal and it's all my fault anyways. I've been married just over 10 years.
Then back off to pray and wait. Being in a relationship should be satisfying for both people involved and you should better one another not be making each other feel worse. Do everything yourself when you can. The time that we spend apart during that little cooling off period probably keeps both of us from saying something that in the end we would regret. I've had trouble on the job because of my temper. Have you told anyone about the way your husband treats you? I have a hard time understanding that because compassion feels so much better than resentment and I have become stronger, not weaker, as I have increased my compassion towards him. Who can you talk to in person about your marriage? I am proud of those qualities.
I try not to yell back at him; sometimes I do, but sometimes I just cry and go into another room. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. His behavior is extremely damaging and scary. Tie Breaker Baby when I was going through college I was a full time nanny for a mom who literally pawned her children off on people so she could get her nails done, have martini lunches, meet up with girlfriends, go shopping for herself. And after a year and a half we started being friends again. But he will not bend to my demands of anger management.