This is not to say that taking off a wedding ring is a magical act that immediately alleviates grief and ends all the emotional difficulties that go with the death of a loved one. He still feels like my husband; I still feel married to him. I feel a strong spiritual presence now. What you decide may be entirely different because we are different people with different experiences, needs and beliefs. My wife passed on and we were all proud to have rings. I kinda want to put mine with his but I'm being told its to soon.
He had never married because he said he waited for me. Since his passing I have lost a lot of weight and the band fits me once again but the band only fits the little finger, so I was thinking is 5 months too little time to cease wearing my wedding ring? It feels wrong to take my ring off. Well through lots of hard work I have now lost 20 pounds and working on the rest! Maybe this sympathetic magic is rubbish but it isn't to me so it isn't. You've expressed the many issues involved in taking this step in a very thougtful and insightful manner. The woman that could understand this bond, and appreciate it, without having jealousy, would be rare. I actually came across this thread when i was researching where I could have a hole drilled through my husbands ring to run the necklace chain through it.
This is still so fresh and many people have told me that I am legally single but I don't care. Do not make any decisions for a year; think I will wait a year before I make a decision. I think it just has to be something that fits you and your new life. . Thinking of a redesign to put back on my left hand! He made fun of me when he got it done because I got a whole sentence on his ring but all he could fit on mine was forever.
While Cory and myself were never married. I took a single-serve bottle of champagne to her grave that day. Am going to have them altered to interlock - they'll still be separate, but inseparable at least when I'm wearing them. While I appreciate the open input, what saddens me is how many people at a fairly young age 60-ish, I'm 56 say they will never date nor marry again. I told her I wanted my rings cut off.
I am still trying to figure out the proper words to say to explain why the ring is still so important to me. Having Your Ring Remade When it comes time to stop wearing your ring, one option is to have it remade into a different piece of jewelry you can continue wearing, like a pendant or a pin. Even when a death is expected, the reality can feel overwhelming at times. The fact I wore Jane's wedding ring and engagement ring on a chain around my neck for the next several months should tell you all you need to know about the emotional state I was in and why my own ring stayed right where it was. That thought came to me on Monday when I woke up.
I do not need to wear the wedding rings, but it seems the rest of my family needs me to wear the rings. If I could, I would still be wearing my ring. It would take a very special man to change my mind. If I had died first my Husband would not have remarried they just don't in his family. I considered myself still married too. I live an independent life, I smile, I laugh, I look normal, I have friends. It just didn't feel right to me.
When I went in the bathroom to put the rings back on, I frantically dug through my purse thinking I had lost them. Burying the ring with them is symbolically the best gesture — that ring was created for them and them alone and represents a great love. Recently I was going through some piles of papers and came across his expired old license and photo I. Whatever you decide, give yourself lots of time to sort through your reactions to this painful situation. But, eventually, she realized she was no longer the person she had been--and that her ring no longer defined, or even symbolized, who she was.
I am still in a state of shock and miss him so much I am finding it unbearable to function. Anonymous I lost my husband on April 22, not quite a month ago. We are all unique in our grief and as we have learned over the months or years it is our way and only our way of grieving and dealing with it. Considerations Wearing a wedding ring on anything but the ring finger of the left hand can prompt questions. I told him I didn't like it either but I was going to do it. We're just comparing those differences.