Maybe had he never lied I would have accepted the kid but he just used me as a tool for his own denial and threw me to the side once he accepted it? The reason it took so long is that his ex only marries military guys, and they moved around the country a lot. My advice is to find out once and for all if your boyfriend is the father. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and Ive never met someone like him. I hate that the special novelty of having our own first time family is ruined. While you do not have to become close friends with her, remaining in good favor with your boyfriend's ex may prevent feelings of jealousy or confusion from arising during times that your boyfriend has to be around his ex for the sake of his children.
I have no choice but to accept it and according to this article, it is normal. Those first few months after I returned to work was the most horrible moments of my life. And I feel really bad about myself because some times I just hate the little girl and wished she didn't exist. To try to make this easier on us, I had decided to leave my professional career in the city and relocate to his small town; I am trying to buy my own home there so there is no stress for us to be together immediately he is already planning to rent out his house and move in with me. Please upgrade your browser to improve your experience. Further more, if there is already existing emotional trauma there why mix it up with more? Show your boyfriend's ex respect by not blatantly going against her wishes regarding the care and supervision of her children. This past weekend, he, I and his kids went fishing, and paddle-boating and altho I played with them I felt soo much jealousy towards them.
I am struggling with the fact he has so much 'baggage', the daughter, the nasty ex and a hefty debt load from the failed marriage. I am going through the same process. I hate to complain about this as this it is not this childs fault, I should be honoured that this little boy loves me and I can understand that his dad wants to be in the childs life as it is his only son but I cringe too when I hear him or see him watching tv when I come over because I know as soon as he sees me I am mum for the next two days at least maybe I give him too much attention and I should back off but he throws tantrums if I don't play all the time and I have tried to get him to do other things but there are no other kids his age to play with everyone else is grown up as his dad is older. I was with a man who had a child, we were engaged, had our wedding booked, had a house together etc and let me tell you that I had my doubts from the beginning. If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother. He feels as if it was a Hugh mistake to keep it from me but on the other side he claims he has never touched another girl while we have been together so that should count for something he says thats the only way he was able to live with his conscience.
The kid seems to bond them together for the rest of your life. She seems to like me but I think she gets jealous of anyone being around her dad he even admitted it to me. He said we will meet in the new year, but I am not so sure. It is the only respectful thing to do! This lady has very valid concerns. That really hurts as I have put lots of time, energy and money on his daughter.
Everything was fine until I found out she was pregnant. There could be different reasons for that. We both love all of them the same. I will not mention that they are also insecure and do not want to make a go of it on their own, plus who will want them anyway except for a man who already has children? Your jealous feelings are real, and there for validated. She is married with a baby but still comes over when her husband is at work. You might not feel adequate, but no parent ever gets a training manual specific to their child. If you are feeling insecure about his love, sit down and express these feelings to him to let him know.
Sometimes we are on opposite weekends When this happens we literally have kids every weekend. Do not brfeath a word of your concern to this man if you really love him. Whether you have a child or children, or your boyfriend, there will be a period of adaptation between sides. I wish you the best of luck - do whats in your heart I can understand some of the feelings here, but I can't agree with them. Birthdays, Schooling we were private schooled.
Hunt was arrested on Saturday after being found sleeping in his vehicle, which was parked near the San Diego International Airport, the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department said. Just like you I dont feel special, he looks at his kids like thank god i have you and looks at me like, Im just another worry on the list. If they're the same as yours, then go ahead. It just means that as his gf, you need to have a whole lot of patience and make a lot of sacrifices. It's old fashioned, as far as the sentiment goes, but yes, it's there. Hi there, I am so sorry to read this. We spend all our time together.
We were perfect for each other and never fought except over the kid. I was curious on who would be texting at that time and I looked at the message. Don't try to take away the happiness of having a child, when that might be the only happy thing out of those years. I turned into a childish mess not knowing how to cope! You need to mature a tad bit before considering children. Long story, no real relevance, except that I've been through a shit ton of stuff.