Are you intending staying with him until they are out of highschool and working or in college? Plus she clearly wants 100% attention from her Dad when she wakes and sleeps. I foresee nothing but problems. It sort of is a double standard for me and makes me feel like a hypocrite. I pray often he moves back in with his mom now that she got another lil apartment. His father and mother---------- those two together------- should discuss how to best help him be all he can be. I don't really understand how someone can get angry at lines in a store. Initially he agreed that it was not ok and that my sister crossed a line, but my sister never apologized, and when asked about it my dad simply said he can't force her if she doesn't want to, and that my girlfriend should try apologizing first and being nice.
If you leave him, would it be best financially if he continues to work instead of retiring? It must be hard to hate something that is actually a part of the person you are feeling strong emotions for. The sheer impossibility of saying no or having anything negative to say whatsoever without being threatened or punished was enough to drive a person mad. At that time, his dad didn't feel it was necessary to keep an eye on him. I don't agree with everyone who says the relationship must end, but I do think several things have to change. There are guys who don't have kids - it seems best to find one of those and let this man go to focus on his son that he loves very much. When my significant other's kids disrespect me, I reveal to him in private what i perceived happening to please help them learn to be kind and respectful to me and others or else they will go to school and say and do what the do at home, to the teacher. I can't understand the level of jealousy and anger you feel toward a 7 year old.
Get them while they're young or they are lost. Is this what you want for yourself? Nothing but complete disrespect towards me. His son is 13 and a spoiled lazy brat. Will your husband leave and pay some sort of short term support? Things are getting serious and the idea of having to stepmom these kids who are already so broken and having zero ability to really parent them and fix the problems is terrifying. We have two grown daughters, and one granddaughter we raised from birth who is 21 and still living with us and going to a community college.
Cut the grinding and gnashing of teeth for before, during, and after every family gathering. If you can't leave them though, we can talk about that. But i really dont think its fair of your bf to just shut you out at the same time or take his anger out on you! All flaws were forgotten and he was transformed, in my screwed-up mind, into a God-like creature, a Mr Perfect. They are only special because they are yours and you love them. I am in a relationship with a 60 year old man and he has a 3 year old son and 2 grown children - I am 53 all three of my children are grown and I have Grand children. I feel like the situation will cause Him to freak out.
My kids are well behaved and have no issues even though they go back and forth between me and my ex husband. What I do now is when he stays for the weekend, I let them have their private time together come Friday and I go out with my friends or hang out in my room and read. His appreciation goes a long way. It was only when this man was no longer available that any trace of doubt evaporated and my feelings of undying love suddenly became crystal clear and all-consuming. I too am struggling with this issue.
His mother's negative spin on things has colored his perception of me. It seems like a lose-lose situation unless something changes. Work in subtle ways for change. Marriage, I think, is not a priority for his dad and I anymore. So the point is, I'm in a lease at this apartment, both of us are signed onto.
My resentment came from trying so hard with these three kids who were just spoiled by both parents to take you over the divorce, and mainly my resentment towards my boyfriend for never once trying to see my side or have my back but instead of mediately making me the outsider and taking his kids side. I am beginning to feel like more like a nanny than his girlfriend that should be his responsibility not mine he is his son. I simply couldn't handle the opposing feelings though I didn't realise that at the time; I just thought I didn't really love him and eventually called it off. Your what's wrong with this world. I don't want to leave him because of our growing baby, but I don't want to deal with this for the rest of my life.
This is like a step backwards in time to the mommy stage. At our house, I've pretty much cut him off those privileges, as those are rewards he has not earned. You can't automatically get a kid to like you, though it's a lot easier at 4 than at 8, which is what I'm dealing with. We create heroes and villains. Well, at least he's made his feelings clear. To be honest he has a great heart and he does love me - but not sure he is meeting my goal to be honest with you - I need to really think its make or break time - Thanks for talking with me specialmom x I totally get what you are saying. Im in a 6 years already relationship with a man who has a 7 yr old who behaves exactly like her mother who is a terrible person, and I believe that just for being her daughter she carries in her blood the same malicious and evil behavior.
This is almost exactly my problem and I am really struggling right now. I know little kds can be a handful. However, I have to be very careful financially. He has these mood swings that i can't keep up with, like i have to brace myself for what kind of mood he's going to be in when he comes home from work depending on if the children will be at our house. In the end, the problems that existed at the beginning with regard to the way that they treated me and the fact that their father let them get away with it because he was so torn with guilt over the divorce, those problems never went away and effect grew to bigger problems as the kids got older. He has no motivation and is glued to his video games all the time when he's at his mom's house. Because his child is a bother.