Five years into her marriage and on the brink of divorce, she learned the secret to turning her man into a loving husband. She's his mom, and he's made it clear that he needs her just as much now as he did when he was a tiny tot. The best way to get him out of this bad habit is try to guide him in the right direction with support and encouragement. Whether it's the detergent you use If you're nice enough to even do his laundry that is, because why should you? There are many things that can be deal breakers when it comes to , and finding yourself involved with a mama's boy can be a pretty high contender. She expected him to perform at school and at home. He learned to understand the consequences of his actions. Plan out activities for you and your husband in which his mother cannot tolerate.
Dress up in his favorite lingerie and spice up the marriage , this will indeed make her feel uncomfortable thus stepping away from interfering in hers son's life. If you really like this guy, give him a chance. Learn to cook his favorite dish. Remember, you are not trying to eliminate his mother from your life, just resolve an issue, and alter his behavior. A Momma's boy typically describes a guy who always puts his mother first, before anything or anyone else.
It can be quite intimidating and claustrophobic again, no one is judging. Know when you are defeated, and he will never be the man you'd hoped, and walk away. More than anything, he needs to know you respect him and need him. Maybe his mother imagined his girlfriend to be completely different from you. Make sure you know what you two want from the relationship Sometimes, it so happens that your boyfriend loves you because he thinks you are exactly like his mother. She was tough but loving and fair.
Have you ever dated a guy and for the most part, things are good? So it might be worth sticking around. If neither of you is willing to change your expectations or behavior, it may be time to consider moving on. He thinks your taste is her taste. However, you definitely deserve a little more credit for dealing with an overbearing mother. These types of men have been spoiled and pampered by their moms, even after they've already grown up. Women generally like who aren't intimidated or easily influenced by other people, and that's a big reason why women don't like mama's boys. And it seems like my husband is mamma's boy? Let him know that you want to work on your marriage together with no one else in the picture.
The thing is, mama's boys often fulfill their mother's every wish, especially the most unreasonable ones — and that's where the problems start. No matter the topic, mommy will always have the final say. She rarely allowed him to take part in activities where he could get hurt. His mama probably kept him busy and had high expectations. What you have to realize is that you have little to no power to make him change. He even gets angry when you tell him his mother is not right about something. A little scare won't do any harm! Avoiding Resentment Avoid nagging your husband about spending more time with you or choosing you over his mother.
This is all just my experience, knowledge, and opinion. Respect the fact that this is a personal issue that he and his mother need to resolve. You should set some of you own boundaries as well. It's important to address these issues as a couple, and come up with a solution that will make all three of you happy. Get answers to all your relationship doubts right into your inbox! Make your relationship with his mother a priority.
Look inward and ask yourself if you can handle his dependence on his mother, suggests clinical psychologist Seth Myers on the website Psychology Today. If she doesn't know and approve of the neighborhood, you can kiss that apartment you love so much goodbye. Moreover, every family is different. She tried to control almost everything in his life. He gives more attention to her than you It just seems like he cares more about her than you. Your husband must also understand that he cannot travel in two boats at the same time.
This will indeed give you'll some personal space. Does your mother in law act arbitrarily thinking her son is still her kid boy who clung to her for almost everything? Most likely, the more he feels that you are serious about the relationship, the more that he will become willing to resolve the issue. Do not expect that after one conversation, you will immediately see a huge turnaround in the situation. She can at best give your husband moral support. Did she follow through when she threatened consequences? She wanted him to be self-sufficient.
Give the mother and son more opportunities to be together by inviting them to your family get-togethers, special occasions and celebrations at your home. She was there long before you, and you need to be clear you are not looking to take her place. He Has Zero Relationship With His Mom Does your partner pretty much have no relationship with your mother in law? To help cope with the situation, the mother has pampered and coddled the son and somewhere in her brain, she has transferred the relationship that she had or wanted to have with the father to her baby boy. She rarely did anything for your husband he could do for himself. I am no way a professional or licensed. He always praises her food, and compares her and your cooking. If it's not how mom would have done it, it's not right.
Every husband and wife fight, this is not the solution right? Talk to his mother about your relationship. The older he is, the more entrenched he will be in this relationship of dependency. Make sure those boundaries are clear and concise. You do not want to be a man's Mommy. Subscribe to Our Newsletter Transform your marriage from the ordinary to the extraordinary! If so, he may have had an overprotective mama. In fact, men who have a good relationship with their mothers tend to be more understanding and respectful toward women, and we ladies know that.