For this, you can expect all kinds of hard emotions, so take it step by step, and make sure you have emotional backup to help you through it. I feel for everyone here who has gone through this, I admire all of you who have made a decision, either leave or stay and work it out. My wife and I cannot stand each other. If my husband would cheat on our marriage, I would,yes be upset, but I would like to think that depending on the circumstances I would make my decision on how to move forward based on the person I have known for 15 + years and not the poor decision he made. Where did he find these women? It may depend on whether the two of you typically have access to each others' texts. I want you to lie back and let me take care of you tonight.
This problem can be fixed, but it will take a lot of effort from your husband and you having the ability to let yourself open up to his problem, and then allow yourself to slowly or quickly trust him again. Dear Thelma, My husband is sexting other women. It will be to you that he seeks confirmation that his life has meaning. If you think there is even a small chance you can forgive him, try counseling. What we do about our fantasies is what makes or breaks us as people. Cheating of any kind is a poor act, and the guy is pathetic.
Some examples of downright dirty texts that are sure to get him going are: 13 I feel like there is something missing in my life. Never sent a sexy pic, never had phone sex. All we know is that the husband indulged in sexual fanstasy via texts and did not admit to it. We also need to talk about where the relationship is going. He was the only one I wanted, and still is. He might of seen this as looking at porn versus a relationship. If he can look at other women with lust, but restrain himself and come back to you, that either speaks highly of his own set of values, or it speaks highly of his appreciation of your own worth or both! I have no idea how to confront him about this.
I suspect the status-quo is not going to work for that guy, and if he insists on appropriate independence, it may not work for her unless she changes too. If he is remorseful, and you are willing, give him a chance to grow from this experience and see how it plays out. Good luck to you and I wish for you every success. Walfish says the reason may not be as simple as being in love. Why is flirting called flirting and not called adultery? I thought of something I want to do to you tonight.
It would never be the same for me. From your letter, several points stand out. I think that's something you both need to discuss. How could he do that to someone he says he cares about unless he is actually lying about caring about me? But it definitely works for them. Perhaps the mistrust comes from other behaviors of his, or perhaps it is about something else that is not related to him or some combination. I always told him that if he cheated on me, it was over. I think once you go through something like this, how people really choose to act may be surprising.
I normally do not have a problem with head coverings that only hide along the hair line. You both have areas of weakness, and considering them realistically is the only way to prevent this kind of breach of trust from repeating itself. He never heard their voices, only typed, and none of them were local so there was no chance of meeting them in person. As you have asked him to see a psychiatrist, you appear to see sexting as a mental illness — or is it that you see his continued sexting as a form of compulsion? Sweetie, you may not want to leave him, but you need to remember that you're not with him either. Does wife read romance novels, watch shows or movies that offer or elict any form of titilation again, not involving her husband? I took the phone from him and made some unpleasant discoveries.
Here are some teasing sexting messages to send your boyfriend: 10 I saw this little cute dog in the park today — it totally reminded me of you. I mean, I felt stupid and guilty for suspecting anything and it turns out I was right all along. I believe that couples should not try to control each other. Finally, although we are talking about you here, I feel very strongly that your husband is miserable too. You cannot trust a partner who sexts, and it pains you.
And yes, I do believe that he was emotionally straying from you, at the very least. But come on, that no one would bring up the possibility that the boyfriend lying about sexting might actually be lying about having sex…. Of course it goes without saying that the trust is completely gone. I am so angry at him, I sometimes cannot be in the same room with him. Been there done that in the past, lessons learned, moved on.
A girl who agreed to send her girlfriend a naked picture is not as dangerous to the community as a child molester but the charge of sex offender would be applied equally to both of these cases. Only you can determine whether or not he is worth a second chance after this. What your husband did was horrible. If someone in the same situation came to you for professional psychological help, what would you tell them? If sexting strange women is a dealbreaker, but porn is not, for instance, they need to have that conversation and come to an agreement about it. Was that all some great big lie just to land me? Not one based on lies and unrealistic hopes.
People forget to be nice to each other as a part of their marital obligation, and take each other for granted, marriage begins to break down. On the flip side, if you do choose to stay with him, you have to go into it all the way with as much dedication as he will have to. Hello all, I can honestly say that cheating is cheating! Q : My partner likes sending naughty text messages and emails. A cause for concern and anger and a lot of hurt? Cute messages will make him smile and think about how lucky he is to have you by his side. They spend holidays with each others families, they have presumably years of memories together.