Recently I thought I would play her at her own game. The fact that this has been going on for so long suggests that the problem is not going to go away. But I would be very interested to see what would happen if the meds were replaced with a placebo. The cold shoulder last this long until she told me what she found. So now I'm too tired to make dinner. It can be made better with a person who sees where they have truly hurt the other. The first was Pleading with him about the Gulf and Carabean Cruise in 2015, to just wait until I came home from that one and Ten days Later we would go on one through the inner Passage to Alaska for the equal Consideration In vacation, Instead we were met with a request at the pre boarding hotel to go talk to his father and the boarding agent about giving up our double berth for a wedding party that under booked, And I would take a single, He would be offered a first class Ticket home and a cruise on another line, After his father got drunk that his son would make his word worthless to others about getting him to back off he bught a metal ball bat and wanted his son to come out of our room to get6 his comeupins and go back home on the first flight, My Husband blocked the swing and got even with his father for his senior year with one hit breaking his neck None of us boarded and alternates did because he would just not accept the best alternative.
You might try studying BorderLine Personality Disorder, my wife has been clinically diagnosed with it and it sounds very similar in some ways. You were completely justified, given her behavior. We did on our wedding night and to him it was the last straw. If I try to express the clarity I feel, she throws it back at me and reminds me of the pain I have caused people in the past rather than acknowledging I am trying to become a better person. She wants to be able to feel safe in the knowledge that her man is someone that she can rely on to be emotionally strong no matter life gets and he rely on him to follow through on his promises.
Perhaps you like adultery better than sex but I think that is a different topic. We are in our mid-40s, and by the way things are going sex once a month will soon peter out -- and then what? You can't assult someone by watching a movie or saying I love you, but you defiantly can assault if you get a little too pushy with sex. During the first year it was 2 to 3 days, then a week, then weeks, and near the end, it was months. She would never initiate sex which made me feel like she didn't want it or care to have it. The trips home were always in silence except for that statement of disgust with use trying to just get him to take times when nobody else needed. Your behind wants your wife to coddle you and treat you like royalty.
But I always draw the line at physical abuse - once that starts in a relationship I strongly believe that couples should call it quits. It is a horrible realization to most men and I think even women as we can see the next poster with two children is struggling with. Good god, you hit the nail on the head! I also started my blog only as a means to vent — and probably share some lessons learnt — should someone stumble onto it… Anyway, I wanted to tell you that I hope you find your happiness again… I started the agonizing ritual of dating again and had some really shitty experiences, but a small part of me kept hoping. I guess I can appreciate the sentiment. Even though I die inside every time I look for desire from her and I find nothing, and m gonna keep trying. For you to say you hate sex with your partner would be like me saying I hate to eat food with my partner but I love to eat wild food. I am becoming a better listener and I am understanding my wife more and more.
We found our love again and each year I feel we get better and closer. She agrees at her age a young 50+ she is constrained by normal age related female issues on terms of desire and physical stimulation and need for love, intimacy and sex. You need to recognize that she is a beloved daughter of The Lord and you have been entrusted by him to love her, to help her, to lead and to co-learn together as she is your helpmeet. Puts me down constantly but i stand by her and try to help to her. Caroline is absolutely right and said nothing rude. You wife sounds like she has gotten bitter, and cold. Try to read on menopause to better understand her.
Having gone through the downward part of the cycle with depression I understand completely what it is like to feel scared, disconnected, sad and hopeless. Did it just start out of the blue. Can I do anything to ease her pain? Then she gets home, I make dinner and take care of the baby, do laundry because I don't have shit to wear the next day and dishes after dinner. Just my opinion, and it's easy to give since I'm not in your shoes. He went the day I left and Promtly broke a friends arm for telling him to turn around and Go home They did not want him there poking my husband in the chest My husband told him he did not care what he wanted or any of my friends and snapped his arm like a twig. I have to really beg her to even give me a hug. I've taking care of her for 11 years.
I tried talking to some senior members of our church once but the view was that I was the main cause of any issues that I am experiencing as it was just not possible that I could have any reason to be frustrated with such a beautiful person as my wife. Im going through the same exact thing here partner. Thre is starting to be a big lack of respect for me and our marriage too, but if I mention it she thinks Im being stupid or a typical husband. You telling her she is sexy and you wanting her is not the same as a stranger telling her. The only ones available are the bad ones. My husband Had nocked all three out and tied them to the same tree, and used that hose to really make them hurt, all Three decided to move out of the state never to see my husband again, that left his father and his best friend who by that time was a county councilman running for Commissioner. The only thing that matters after that is getting some shared custody with your son, which won't happen amicably.
There are unexpected rewards, like when our children get to play team sports, or play their instruments in a concert or when they go visit their grandparents and see the enjoyment that their grandparents get from seeing their grandchildren. She says she wants me to move out. If nothing is coming back your way despite you making every sincere effort to show love, caring and affection then it is likely that she feels nothing for you. She sees me in pain and has nothing to offer. God bless you and I pray that things get better for you. Women hold the gate key to intimacy in the Anglo-sphere, men are completely second class citizens. The only times I remember my husband embraced and genuinely hugged me were: when we were teenagers, when he was courting me; and when his father passed away.
Then when you have children around you and children are around when this happens it is not good and as guardians , as parents, as adults we both agreed enough was enough and that we have to sort things out. Brenda, My heart grieves for what you have lived through. She does not try to impress you. You might also post this over on Alcohol Abuse. Im starting to think maybe being too nice in the first place when the symptoms started, she thinks im a wimp as i have never challenged her or told her she is the one who is in fault! When my wife and I hit rock bottom thats the ultimatum she gave me, and I chose to stay and work on it, I thank her for it in my heart every day. And when they find out they can be very hurt, taken for granted and belittled. Your posts have made me think deeply about my own relationship with my wife.