Why don't you encourage her to eat better and start exercising? So many men need to take a hard look at this issue. Mama, there are some interesting comments in response to yours… I am 36 years old with three children and one on the way. He says he loves me, does not want anyone else and plans to be with me forever. I believe wholeheartedly, that your attitude and love for her can deeply impact her for the good, if you choose to love her as God does. This is not just a physical issue. Your hubby needs a change of heart and that can only come from Christ.
Your wife is not so different from the woman that you first met. If you have an issue with that reality, take it up with our Creator. Many men give things to to their wives because they believe they have to or because it is their responsibility. For men, attraction is connected to self-esteem. Looking, noticing is not lusting. We know that she's in the wrong, but you deserve the validation. Naturally this aroused my suspicions as She clearly lied to me.
Did you pray for a long time to see if it was God's will for you to marry her? If you are an overweight, unemployed loner, then you've got a lot of work to do. What you need to do is buckle down. When you listen, don't listen to figure things out or solve problems. I see her now more as a roommate rather than a partner in life. Hi Wayne, Thank you for sharing your heart! She also worries that if she tells Eddie how she feels, their sex life will end entirely because My advice to Maggie was to be honest with her husband and let him know this is a problem for her, therefore a weak spot in the marriage. I have been married to my wife for five years.
Beyond those things, what do you want to give to her? It means looking for the good, especially in her. Try not to take it personally, even tho it's very hard not to. . I cannot be the only person who feels this way. However, I have lost 15lbs in the last year due to seeing a nutritionist. No pooches — everything in place! Paring the positive change with another positive, spending time together, will automatically reinforce the changes.
Or if you have children, are you generally in agreement on strategies and major decisions? I should mention that I am very much in love with her and after 9 nines years I find incredably attractive. Lets get this thread back on topic…… …. Instead, work with her, tell her that it's healthier to be active, that it will be fun - Be positive about it! Hi jenny, this is for you only. At times it has bothered me to the point of almost blurting it out to her. There's no point in staying within 5 feet of this deceitful human being.
Approximately 2 years ago my wife started not finding me attractive anymore. I have seem God work in many couples hearts to do just that. She spends hours a day on the couch. She may be tired and also pressured by the constant needs of children. My husband has many issues and refuses counseling personal counseling was recommended to him by our marriage counselor. I know there are a bunch of us who have had bad things happen and have had our hearts broken in ways that destroy our sense of self worth and therefore the feeling that we deserve to take care of ourselves is destroyed too? Eddie carved his way into a prestigious law firm while Maggie stayed home to raise their boys.
Leave this woman alone and find someone that will love you for all the things about you. Just in case you were questioning your compatibility. Here we are ten years later, and I see more unabashed delight and adoration in his eyes now when he looks at my naked body than I did even back then. I believe that God is working at our marriage each and every day. I'm really depressed and feeling insecure. Keep praise music in your house, sit and read the Bible with your wife. Maybe you two should try one of those 5 star resorts without the kids.
If it was an issue prior to marriage, then you can not blame your wife for this. It may age and get a little wear and tear on it, but it doesn't slowly morph into a huge Suburban or something! If this sounds too subservient for you, just think how you are doing it for the both of you. If she doesn't, then at the end you are in a better position to attract someone else. I do understand where you are coming from, but telling you anything else would be wrong! We live on the same piece of property and in the last few years moved to different building. Yet it is what God calls us to do and where change truly happens, not to mention healing and restoration. I wanted to confront her but didn't know how as I had been snooping on her. What we are talking about in essence is motivation for change.