Depression feeds back all the worst things you already suspect about yourself, except as irrefutable fact. Thanks regarding the blog, I always have more stuff to post. However then I suddenly realized that while I am 85kg I am also 185cm tall which is considerably higher then she is and yet I weight 5kg less then heir. I was open to also considering other fat men, and went on a single ad date with a man that was 400lbs but we were not otherwise compatible. She's gotten bigger and bigger in the time I've known her about a year and a half but her husband and friends still adore her.
Anyway, to answer the actual question, I don't mind someone being a bit larger. But seriously, I find a little bit of chub can look good on someone boy or girl and even improve them in my eyes. Your the type of person that picks there career, home and car based on what others think, you have no real self. One absolute disaster date I had was where I met a girl who claimed to be a sturdy 130 kg honey, but when she arrived, it turned out she was a transfat activist, only weighed 80 kg and had lead-lined pillows stuffed in her pants. So really my answer is, no bigger than Cristina Hendricks. My family was visiting her and I got the message at a pool party, sitting there fourteen, forlorn and vulnerable in my bathing suit.
Surely that weight is pretty much ideal. But I want you to do it regularly. I can't say I've ever put a specific weight on it. Either he likes what he sees or not. I don't know if you've looked around in real life lately, but there sure are all kinds of people of all shapes and sizes and they all find someone who thinks they are hot. Failing that, large stretch marks are a bit of a turn off. Too many times have I met a hot girl, only for her to turn out to be secretly fat when we got together D-: Too many times have I met a hot girl, only for her to turn out to be secretly fat when we got together D-: Thanks, you're a life saver.
I want you to look in the mirror give yourself a compliment. Anyway, I think for me it all comes down to if they're healthy or not. Any one else's opinion is irrelevant to me. I always wanted to be fat until it showed I didn't suit it. The discovery of men who were more open to fat women turned around my thinking; even if the hard core fat admirers were a select group, I had problems with, in terms not wishing to be objectified, the discovery that they existed made me realize I might yet be attractive to someone else. Anonymous Thanks for a great entry, Peep! My boyfriend loves my body how it is, and would love it if I gained or lost a few pounds as well. My relatives realizing the hurt I had suffered had known of my plans; not my mother who got the point just the same.
You already know that you can be funny and charming and get people to like you. Our clothes are an outward extension of who we are. Assuming I am not already emotionally attached to this person, the answer is zero. If your body language is tense and you seem closed off because you're self conscious, people notice. Also good for you on loosing that weight, starting is the hardest once you get in the flow of things it becomes much easier.
Come to think of it with mother's friends, I think they were all narcissists too. I would understand if it was some kind of gene-related thing, but if you're not taking care of your body, then where does that leave me, Sam? As long as you don't get too hard on yourself if things don't work out because of your weight you should be fine. You never tackle a big problem by going head to head with it, you take your time and break it down and fix those smaller problems. If a guy is only interested in your for your physical appearance, why waist time with him. Beauty and attraction are truly in the eye of the beholder.
Now this is a touchy subject for some people, but I'll be honest about it. It's something everyone should feel, no matter how many people tell you that you don't deserve it unless you lose weight. I'm a doctor and recommending people to live a healthy lifestyle that will prolong their life is part of my job and passion. One absolute disaster date I had was where I met a girl who claimed to be a sturdy 130 kg honey, but when she arrived, it turned out she was a transfat activist, only weighed 80 kg and had lead-lined pillows stuffed in her pants. So I get why you feel the way you do. So I'm currently single and would love to go on some dates but I don't feel confident in my weight.
Being overweight will shorten your life significantly, I know you hear that all the time, but seeing it and hearing it are 2 completely different things. And some women, the number on the scale seems really incongruous to what they actually look like. There has to be some level of attraction for me to want to date them but considering I'm a fatty chan I can't lecture anyone about size. As some others have said, the important thing isn't fat % or height:weight ratios, it's proportions and silhouette. Working out is about you and yourself, to make yourself feel better and get more energy. I'm trying so hard to get in shape but until then, I'm not dating.
By all means date when you feel more confident, but how do you know you will feel more confident if you lose what you think you should lose? I couldn't even begin to put an exact number to that, but I know what is attractive when I see it. I can actually use myself for an example here. Once you've transformed your body, you'll be in better shape to be strong enough emotionally to handle being in a relationship. D cups can add on something like 10kg. Wow, I'm about to go off on a tirade about this, so I'm going to stop for now. I try to make the best of the situation and try to look nice and be confident. I'm not talking about running triathlons here, just a simple ability for them to get up and go do something without being winded.