We're not always going to find sexual partners who are a great fit for us right off the bat: I'd say that's pretty uncommon. I have never felt enjoyment when I have ever gotten fingered. The hurting part is probably between him going too fast, his nails being too long, and you could Possibly he tight dOwn there like I am and he may have just been tryiv to put too many fingers in that it was stretching your vagina and it's not too comfortable. Its all part of getting to know someone. Don't forget, too, that how sexually excited we feel tends to play a big part in how things feel physically.
Does it hurt when you get fingered? It doesnt hurt if you are used to wear a tampon, if you do it feels a little good. Does it hurt the first time you get fingered? It's always a little strange and uncomfortable with someone new at first because you have to learn how to make the other person aroused. Helpp I am 15 and still a vrigin I was fingered for the first time yesterday he went very hard ans fast I barly new him and now suddenly it is starting to hurt when I pee and i get a slight amount of blood and a burning feel , I do not want to tell my parents but if anyone could help me understand if there's anything wrong with me It sounds like a unitary tract infection, which is when bacteria from his hands or under the fingernails , or just being deep can cause an infection , best thing you can do is go to a doctor and you don't have to say if was sexual , you can just explain the bleeding and burning. I guess it really depends on the person. It worries me a little, and this isn't really something I feel comfortable talking to my mom or doctor about. I thought he was just gonna do a little touch, but he actually stuck his finger in, and did his thing. When that does happen, and it usually will, it works a lot better to just accept that and move on than for you or anyone else to keep trying to do things you don't want to, don't feel into, or do not feel excited about.
If it hurts at all being fingered, just tell the guy to take it easy. My vagina feels sort of sore, and it feels kind of sensitive when i wipe. A female reader, anonymous, writes 23 March 2008 : It hurt me, but I was nervous and not relaxed and the guys hands were huge. Dont worry about it and be sure to relax. This is perfectly normal and you should not be alarmed if this happens to you. He may just be doing to for the sake of doing it. It was more of a pinching pain.
Once you are comfortable with being fingered, you can think about having full sexual intercourse. Out of all the sexual partners I have had it has been different each time. My stomach stopped hurting after a half hour and then i went to sleep. No harder, anyway, than finding people who are a good fit for us in all the other ways that matter, right? He has regular sized fingers for a boy and it didn't hurt me when he did it. There are people who don't find either of those activities particularly exciting or enjoyable, and there are people who really enjoy them both.
I can imagine its scarry if it doesn't go away after a couple hours u should really b careful. You, like the rest of us, get to choose to only pursue or stick with sexual partnerships or interactions that fit who you are and what you like well. If it hurts, tell him to go slow, and by the time he is in, it will start feeling good. But that's just me I love when he goes in there. Sexual contact is always much more enjoyable when it happens with somebody you care about and trust.
If a girl is aroused when a boy starters to finger her, it should not hurt. If you take the time to explore your body a bit of internet research may be in order you can find out what makes you crazy, and teach him. When I was getting fingered, it was my first time and it was by the guy i liked. There are people who engage in both manual sex and intercourse who tend to prefer manual sex, on the whole, or find that usually or always feels physically or emotionally better to them. Again, not everyone likes intercourse or wants to engage in it, just like not everyone likes receptive or oral sex or any other sexual activity.
But also i'm very active athlete. It's a basic part of human sexuality. A female reader, anonymous, writes 11 February 2010 : hi, it doesent really hurt, ive been fingered now nearly everyday and im pretty much used to it, hes started to put four fingers in and this hurt a wee bit, well put it this way ive had more pain, just go along with it and if you feel uncomfortable dont let them peer pressure you into it! Now and then, just like you're not going to connect with people emotionally or intellectually, or find people attractive, you're not going to connect with people sexually, and vice-versa. A female reader, , writes 17 December 2006 : jus keep telling him how u like it. A reader, anonymous, writes 13 September 2009 : The first time I got fingered it hurt alittle bit.
He has fingered me 3 different times and after each time it hurts and is extremely sore. Many girls find that fingering is a great way to build up to full sexual intercourse. This will help to ensure that nothing occurs that you are uncomfortable with and if at any stage you are not enjoying it, you can tell the boy to stop what he is doing. Pull on it till it's hard, then pull till it's soft. If and when anyone does feel obligated in a sexual interaction or to do things they don't want or things they don't like, we're usually looking at someone in a sexual relationship that isn't a goodie for them or for their partner: people really into their sexual partners and into being a bonafide partner don't tend to enjoy an activity themselves that their partner doesn't enjoy or want.