First of all, yes - I do find the pattern from the research disturbing, and am thrilled that Sara found someone who appreciates her intelligence and everything else about her. No longer can we see the situation at hand with our usually inquisitive minds, but instead we are like lovesick teenagers, thirsty for affection. Of course, the same trait in men was viewed as desirable. I'm going to continue being myself. Perhaps there are other broader elements to this that I am not conscious of, but based on my personal experiences I enjoy and strive to be a knowledge leader in areas that I am passionate about.
Because women mature quicker then boys, they are often more intelligent in school, and this was the case for me. I try to separate my irrational thoughts to my profession. Man lies in her womb and is reborn each time anew with a desire to act, to be. Sadly, it just made him want to fight more often rather than less. I fear I'm unable to give up control enough to ever let anyone take care of me.
And the person who was just a friend is. Also, if the guys you have been with enjoy dumb girls, you need to look for better men. If you wait for her to initiate, you look like you have no courage You hunt her. Personally, I prefer more intelligent women and men to make up for my lack of brain cells. Alex Banner of explains that women are compensating for their unsuccessful dating careers with successful professional careers, and it's only widening the gap.
That being said, man up guys, and talk to us! If you keep ending up in relationships that are not healthy and do not have a healthy dynamic then it is worth looking at what signals you are sending out and how what you are doing may be influencing that. Whereas, high intelligence in the male partner was not seen as problematic, but desirable. Some men don't care, but most know that deep down she would prefer a more accomplished man. Its how we like it, deep down, both men and women. In an article in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, University of Texas at Austin graduate student Cari Goetz and her team focused on the so-called sexual exploitability hypothesis - the idea that men are genetically programmed to look for 'easy' sex.
The researchers began testing their model by asking a large group of undergraduate students to nominate some specific actions, body postures, attitudes and personality traits that might signal vulnerability, such as exhaustion, intoxication, or low intelligence. That is, whether a man's sense of masculinity is tied to performance in an area where he feels he is in competition with a woman or not. While most intelligent women aren't pompous or arrogant about it, many times men assume they are. Man lies in the woman's womb only to gather strength, he nourishes himself from this fusion, and then he rises and goes into the world, into his work, into battle, into art. I just can't pull off that dumb, helpless act though. They want to be revered, adored, and worshipped. I'm very lucky to be close friends with a number of women who are highly intelligent and successful in their chosen fields and are with long-term supportive male partners.
When did everyone just want to go to the Bahamas and lie around? Acting only leads to superficial, short term gain and that is all most people seem to want. According to , 21 percent of married women had a spouse that was less educated than them in 2012. You forget to eat the whole cake Intelligence breeds ambition, which breeds neglect. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. I on line dated several years, found meeting in person quickly much the best way to truly access the potential, else my imagination created attributes the person did not possess. Do they get a sense of power out of it or is it a lark? Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. And I don't know most of them.
But in the end, the smart girls will add more to the relationship and to the intellectual and emotional growth of their partner than any stupid girl ever could. Trophy-type women perform this role perfectly by elevating his status through beauty while simultaneously playing the role of the loyal subject. After all, both genders are human beings who appreciate and deserve respect and validation for their positive qualities. Men like to feel smarter than women as a whole. I have done the same thing in the past, for what it's worth. The other side of the coin to acting stupid would be being controlling. Anyway back to your question, why do they like it.
Not that you shouldn't expect to have to do everything for yourself wait. Settle for a man who's less educated, of course. I often play the dumb card to my advantage. Why don't men want women with whom they can converse and who challenge them? This discussion reminds me of a phenomenon in which I have lost my voice due to a cold. Sex will always outshine brainpower in the heat of the moment.