What happened when I stopped listening and stopped analyzing? As cold as it sounds, have you made a Pro and Con list of each man, including the aspects of life with each man that would extend into the next 5 years? He tries to please them both and it is a Herculean task. I really think your feelings, likes and dislikes matter. Because what you're in right now is a non-exclusive relationship. The other guy would be a very stable husband… I can be happy if I try. So I have a lot to think about what the right thing to do is. We got intimate and fooled around a few times after but no relationship.
Guy number one is the father of my daughter. Something I never did before I got married is make a list of everything I wanted in a life partner. In my opinion, love for a partner has three essential ingredients: intimacy, passion and commitment. I hope you do find your happiness, but please, don't find it at the expense of someone else's. Maybe he never really felt real love and is certain that for him it is not a necessity. Anyway, hope any of this helps.
Or do I just accept that soulmate will never be able to walk away from the known comfort zone and start dating and reopening the doors to establish an emotional connection with someone else? But in my case the guy I really do love has a kid with a woman he cheated on me with. What would make up his decision to go for one or the other? The bad route to take would be seduction, he might choose you over her but you'll find he has a lot less respect for you, and it may turn into something just for fun - unless that's what you're aiming for. I am absolutely sure it is very important for your children that you are happy — children are so much smarter then we give them credit for, their instincts are helping them to feel and on that level understand situations more than grownups ever will. This may sound strange but I would prefer hurting than seeing either of them hurt. Dear Bayleigh: It seems that you have not been given the opportunity to decide what you really want out of this life and in a life-partner. I feel like when we first met we had such a flame together and now its not like that romantically at all, I feel like he is my best friend. Not like i used, falling on the road in tears, banging my head on shop windows in tears, my kids embarassed to walk next to me.
Well my boyfriend found out about me and his cousin and obviously he did not go very well, he was so mad that he got into his anger rage and tried strangling me, good thing his mother was there to break that up. My ex is actually a good guy and not physically abusive at all, just emotionally which is still bad. We start texting and going out on dates. We had what I considered, the perfect life. While I adore him and have a great time with him, I feel like our passion can never be the same as the passion I feel for my ex. I felt guilty, loving one but not wanting to hurt the other. I was not fulfilled with my professional situation and I wanted more of my life.
My head tells me no, but my heart screams yes. I gave up everything and rooted my daughter and my life to be with soulmate from one state to another. I left the job but we stayed in touch. He can be there for her and let her know he wants her included in his life; easier if there are grandchildren. What is it that you find so attractive about your ex? Wine, great music, dancing and great food. When I talked with Ashley Saturday, I gave her two pieces of advice. Adding to the complication is that you are away from your girlfriend in a new environment and it is now far easier for you to be around your boyfriend than your girlfriend.
Moreover the fact that he cannot take care of himself or better to say is letting me take care of him almost completely repulsed me from him. So I controlled everything else in my life…. Either way I truly wish that she finds real happiness whether it be with me or with someone else. He to is married but in a relationship of convince at this point. This will be a major decision, so make sure to think through things deeply. If they are smart people, they can learn how to handle the situation constructively. Please don't be a home-wrecker.
But which person do you feel the most guilty about when spending time with the other? The woman who would never let herself be humiliated the way you are letting him humiliate you. We lived like that for 16 years. I'm stuck between passion and logic. I adored him and we had so much fun together but that bliss quickly faded when I got pregnant 6 months later. And now that she realizes she wants you, she has to wait for your approval.
Life never comes with a guarantee. It takes a lot of courage for this step tho. Good luck with the decision you need to make. The relationship with boy2 seemed like being with a balloon — everything was easy and happy, and light, I did not have to take care of everything. Free will, one life, do not let anybody control you, even yourself. Im about to celebrate 2 years sober and he still drinks and other things.