We been building rapport for five weeks, should I ask him to meet or build more rapport? I tried to speak to him to understand but he's refusing to answer the phone and is being really cold towards me. When men start ignoring you on purpose it is coming from a place of rage just because they know it will punish you. Let me give you a real example. Dear Christine, A month ago, my boyfriend stopped calling and texting for up to a week. So I just set it straight…said because he has ignored my messages and has shown me he is not interested or bothers I will not message again.
The first thing I did when my man had a phase with ignoring was talking to him. Long story short i i was having some suicidal thoughts and came to him like he insists i do , and in the middle of the conversation he stopped replying. Now his reply threw me off as I thought our quick chat earlier was his way of saying we could hang. The last time we hung out which was like 3 weeks ago he asked me over and I agreed to meet up cause we had not hung out for like a week n half due to our busy schedule which was a first as we usually met like at least once a week. My boyfriend has been together since May of 2016.
Well its the next day, no reply. Part of the problem that men have with women calling too much is that they know if they pick up the phone they are going to have to talk to a really emotional human being and while some men will get off on it most of us despise it. What were the last few things that you talked about? I went to him crying, begging him to do something. But he was so very patient and understanding. But in that time i saw he was flirting with me again.
Anyway, after almost 48 hours of no contact, I got a hold of him briefly at work. He has been fishing and thats all je olans to do. Were they mostly you complaining about something that happened during your day? I mentioned that had happened in the past and I wanted it to be clear. Now, if she had tried a different approach she would have had him on his hands and knees begging for her back I know my buddy, trust me it is possible. Those were the default strategies that society handed you. Da Da… Da Da Da Da Da Da… Ok, you get the picture. You apologized to him for appearing needy, he accepted it and kept talking to you.
Not a guy, but I'm similar to your boyfriend. We texted everyday for 2 years, he needed to do police training where he would be away for 3 months and needed someone to watch his dog. This could very well be the case with your boyfriend. I tried forcing my foot in door thinking somebody was In there and how his behavior was bizarre. If he's short on time, he may put off contacting you and end up forgetting about your texts and calls. There are plenty of other men on your contact list.
In that case, it's nothing personal; he probably didn't even know that it was you who was calling because he might have not even glanced at his phone. Like he has asked me to do if it happens. The 30 day thing is ridiculous! But I just give him space when he is with his friends. Even though I missed him like crazy , I didnt reach out to him as I thought that if he needed my advise he would. The past few weeks we have bickered here and there but it never last more than a few hours and we are back to our playful relationship. My psychologist said there was something behind it, maybe him trying to show some feelings for me, but he rarely calls me over. I asked him for a second chance and he told me maybe thats all he could say right now, now keep in mind my divorce is not final yet and he is a stickler about it so its not like we can introduce each other to each others families cause they already know one another but were keeping this low because of me going thru the divorce.
He says he is still angry and I need to work on myself and be patient so I am going to try but I feel it is cruel to treat someone you love this way. We became more distance towards each other. He of course questioned where I was going and what I was doing. I talked to him often enough to feel secure about his feelings. The problem that a lot of women make is they turn into what I like to call a text gnat. We hit it off super well and we were texting and snapchatting nonstop for a while he even snapchatted me in the shower just a few days ago.
I'm a woman but I'm not fond of texting. Are they conversations or does the conversation end with come over for sexual actions. If it just came out of the blue, there must be something going on that you are unaware of, sometimes pain alters personalities of people you love, reach out, make sure to tell them you are always going to be there. But honestly, it does bother me that when he is off with the guys, I'm a very distant thought. However, once it reached that level I began to have a lot of scary thoughts. Im on this situation ryt now but mine it think its totally diff. Have you ever seen him give a friend the cold shoulder rather than discussing the issue? I had cancer surgery and expected him to disappear but he has been consistent in my life.
After we met, I fell in love with his persoailty and wanted to be his friend. First off, remember way back when I talked about how desperate women are the number one turnoff that makes men ignore their exes? Internet relationships are no substitute for being together in real life. Mind you, getting home took 4 hours. Hope this helps : July 16, 2016, 10:04 am So my best guy friend and I snapchat all the time and we have been friends for almost a year. However, if it's been more than a day or so, and your boyfriend is still acting like you don't exist, then no one would blame you for being a little concerned. Do I just leave the ball in his court now? He texts every other day, calls me 3-4 x a week. Invite him to convey his feelings to you in a non-judgmental way, and don't blame him for what happened between you.
People like space and when they smell desperation they run. I somehow convince him to be friends, to continue the friendship that had just began almost a year ago. He then said he was tired and needed to go to sleep but stayed on chat. We happened to meet one day after that, but chance. I even at one point kindly said hey telling me you felt I was financially unstable hurt my feelings.