As soon as he has reached his peak, his participation in an intimate night together is over. And certainly not if they only had a problem with me touching them and not other people. You stopped trying to talk to him about it after he got offended, and no longer ask him for oral sex. You sound like a nice guy and she doesn't deserve you. When I ask if she's still attracted to me, she gets an attitude like it's a stupid question. Just do your part in a marriage.
For some, you entered into the world of motherhood rather quickly. We sleep in the same bed a lot of nights and I am so tired of her moving my hands away from anywhere that i touch her that I spend most of the night curled up in the fetal position facing the wall so I can stop thinking about it. Make sure you communicate with her in a gentle and loving way with complete humility. I work fifty to sixty hours a week. There is a break down of some sort that is causing her to turn away from being intimate with him.
So, if you can relate to some of these issues, make sure you sign up to receive my future posts. From there, the relationship just gets better and better every day, week and year that you are together…. Is there a reason she takes a long time to be comfortable? The romance in my marriage is all but dead; many other men are having this issue. You may be surprised at her response. To her the most important part is friendship. I actually get all the excuses.
She can't will herself to want it. This line angers me to no end, because its a ridiculous cop-out. I just happened to be at her house hanging out with her brother who is my best friend when she got a phone call that the guy cheated on her at a party. Growing up, I desperately wanted him to be in my life and felt very abandoned by him after my parents divorced. She could be mega private about her life and could fry your ass for telling other people.
Lisa, 32, Manchester Dear Lisa, Reading your letter reminded me of a film that came out a couple of years ago, a comedy called Don Jon. I want to be free to talk, flirt, whatever with whomever I want. She doesn't want me touching her she basically told me so. She again said she'd make an effort. If it's a psychological thing or due to prior bad experiences, see if she's open to talking to a psychologist maybe? And to the guys, are any of you in this kind of situation? Tell us super husbands what else we can be doing to help our wives want to be intimate. I'm giving you a massage tonight, would you like a bath or a glass or wine. You can decide what to do with it, who you love and what you want.
If you have body image issues this is something you can work on yourself. This sounds like a woman with a good-girl-bad-girl view of sex. To get her love back, you will need to first get her respect back for you as a man, then her attraction and after that, she will naturally open herself up to loving you again. I do really want this to work. Don't do it when you're trying to initiate anything. I am doing that to avoid the water works, and her violent streak. You obviously read comments because you came across the one comment that should have been in a different thread and replied to it.
Really it sounds like she wants to take it slow. As a woman, I could copy the social correctness and start blaming men for being insensitive and single-minded sexually, that is. Sex definatly isn't the basis of our relationship. I think what drives couples apart most intensely are Unsaid Things. But its something you should discuss wif her. Get away and be glad you found out now and not much later.
Afterwards, his libido diminished greatly and to this day, I would gladly make love to my husband once or twice every day while he is satisfied with twice a week. If he does this right, she will both feel more loved and find herself more inclined to follow his lead. I struggle to orgasm through penetrative sex, and I need other forms of sexual contact to get me in the mood. Never mind the fact that she is already checking out other guys. I say somewhat restored because sometimes fixing our bodies is just not a reality. Sorry, but this is why you see men having multiple wives in Africa.