He came home early and you would have thought I had a man in the house. I even moved to a rural home on a canal so he could get boat. I feel for the other situations because they sound alot like mine. He is helpless when it comes to paying bills or anything financial. He is so bitter now that I am back at work. Loving an alcoholic is one of the most painful things you will ever have to cope with.
September 10, 2008 I have just gone through all the messages. I am always anxious and nervous. This is your history and you can honor that. Editor's Picks Talk to your husband about your decision when he's sober. Fast forward ten years and two children later. I was in therapy for a bit we even did joint for a bit , but nothing sticks when there is no desire to change.
My son of 19 is on anti-depressants and my daughter of 15 is seeing a child physchologist and will not attend school. Three months later, my husband stopped too. We have two young children, and before I act I want to make absolutely certain I can get custody if I leave him. He is always unhappy and i don't know what to do. I am a stay at home mom with two children, 20 months and 5 years. I want you to know that when a person drinks, and he keeps drinking, he is slowly but surely killing himself.
I see it now that his path started to veer off into a terrible and frightening place, darkened by alcoholism. More power to your gut decisions, life is too short to be miserable. I found myself married but single, longing for those moments when he was sober, yet not condescending. You have slid into codependency with your husband. In the mean time you need to make a plan regarding what you will be doing after the divorce.
When he does seem like his old self i get so excited and it is so nice. Well, if he does not want to change, and keeps doing his annoying little thing, I guess it is. I am 42 years old and feel my life is over. How Our Helpline Works × For those seeking addiction treatment for themselves or a loved one, the Alcohol. Jul 06, 2011 Rating Words of comfort by: Anonymous Reading this is like I am writing it myself. We have raised 6 kids, all turned out great, and have had our ups and downs.
Steps for Offering Help While Staying Safe It is important to take care of yourself when your husband is prone to alcohol abuse and struggles with alcoholism. I am not upset about his drinking as I used to be, I'm not trying to control it, and when he gets obnoxious, I just walk away and do something else. The most common answer is Run, leave, get out. My wife of 9 years has finally admitted to being an alcoholic. All I can say is I regret never doing anything sooner. All of our situations are unique and we have to do what is best for us. My husband then decided that he didn't need to work even though we had childcare spaces set up for the 2 children.
Why do I feel that I actually deserve it? I do not feel like my home is my home anymore it is a prison. I have no friends and have no desire to make any. He is not a person you can make agreements with. If your husband struggles with co-occurring disorders; is prone to self-harm, aggression, or violent outbursts; or abuses other drugs in addition to alcohol, it is always best to have the guidance and support of a trained professional when hosting an intervention. Always able to go where I wanted, have friends, travel, work etc. Sometimes it means that I need to think carefully how I want to act before I speak. His drinking has nothing to do with you.
Everyone keep your heart open and protected. You worry that his emotional and mental abuse might escalate into violence against you and the children. L — Chances are that you are feeling your situation is really difficult but the Bottled Up program is to bring you to a position that is less difficult. I pray every night for all the women who are being beat up and beatened down. Now she needs your support as a responsible mother. I told him to grow up and be a dad.
My mom is not around to help me anymore, she died 8 yrs. I really started to like him after a while. You are exhausting yourself trying to take care of him and it will get you nowhere. However, do know that this can be a very slow process that can take years. Your daughters sobriety and your unhappiness does not even cross his mind. I really love him dearly, but hate the alcohol and what it does to him. I am so depressed but try so hard to be happy, positive and a good role model for my children but it is getting too difficult.
Everyone works on their own timeline, and just because yours might be different than mine or anybody else's doesn't make it wrong. Once you have the divorce decree in your hand, it is time to start a new journey. I am saying that the discussion is irrelevant. My husband abandon me and the kids and went to stay with another woman who he just met. I already reised a child in this environment and now she is an opiate addict. There was this huge eruption which made me hate him and the other woman.